A Call for Respect & How Giving it to Famous Interviewees like McCartney, Springsteen & Hopkins is Key to Getting a Great Story

A Call for Respect & How Giving it to Famous Interviewees like McCartney, Springsteen & Hopkins is Key to Getting a Great Story

When the Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin, recently passed away, it brought her signature song, “Respect,” and its uplifting ode to both feminism and human rights back into light. Acquiring respect was Aretha’s watchword.

Aretha


Confucius said, Respect yourself and others will respect you. Another take is that respect comes in two unchangeable steps — giving it and receiving it. But with Machiavelli-like forces worldwide seeking to divide and conquer us by upping the distrust levels between us, respect has been taking a beating.

However, this core value is so valuable that psychologists say respect may be even more important than love in basic human relationships.

That said, I’ve found respect has been key for me in interviewing famous people from legendary musicians like Paul McCartney and Bruce Springsteen to Oscar winners Anthony Hopkins and Jennifer Lawrence. But, not just paying respect in a mannerly way, but, perhaps more importantly, having the respect to do your due diligence and doing the research, and then being on your toes when asked to demonstrate that acquired knowledge.

Nothing worse than asking a question — “What are your favorite movies?” — and then being asked back as Warren Beatty recently did, “Well, let me ask you, what movies of mine beyond the most obvious ones have you enjoyed?” Luckily, I had seen his political thriller, The Parallax View, several times, and he was chuffed with my choice and why.

So, here are some examples of what showing some respect actually brought me not only respect back, but also the very best of interviews.

McCartneyWings Capitol


I was still in school in Toronto when I hustled my way into covering Paul McCartney and Wings for national Canadian concert promoters (CPI). My job was to watch the crew set up their stage at Maple Leaf Gardens and the band doing its sound check, and grab any interviews I could. Backstage, I’d already interviewed a very amiable Denny Laine, the guitarist who formed the nucleus of Wings for 10 years with Paul and Linda. “Macca” appeared onstage once all the equipment had been set up. I introduced myself and explained my assignment and then I asked what instrument he was going to do the sound check with. He quizzed me, perhaps to mischievously test my knowledge, asking what instrument I thought he’d use. Most people think of McCartney on his bass or piano.

But I’d done my research and found out he’d actually played all the instruments on his debut solo record, “McCartney.” I mentioned that, figured he might do something different, and so I suggested the drums. He smiled, telling me I could move to a spot right on the stage and watch. And he proceeded to take his place behind the drum kit and pound away. The rest of the day went swimmingly well, I got some quotable and typically mischievous quotes from Macca and the concert that night was spectacular. All for showing a little respect and knowledge.

Next up was interviewing Bruce Springsteen for national Canadian magazine, Maclean’s. I was in journalism school and had woken up on a Monday wondering how a student could afford to watch Bruce play on Thursday, at Maple Leaf Gardens. Jon Landau’s famous description of Springsteen in a 1974 article in The Real Paper claimed, “I saw rock and roll's future and its name is Bruce Springsteen.” But, because of a legal battle, Springsteen hadn’t recorded in three years, so his “Darkness on the Edge of Town” tour was to be a triumphant return with new music.

A little more hustling on my part and I got to sit in a front row, next to upcoming producer Bob Ezrin, who had already worked with Alice Cooper, Aerosmith and later with Pink Floyd and Peter Gabriel. Ezrin suggested that all Bruce needed was a radio hit — many of them were soon to follow. But that night, Springsteen opened his three-hour, almost ‘Mahlerian’ show as I wrote, with a clarion call: “We’re all prisoners of rock and roll...and we’ve been sentenced to life.” Then his band just roared into one of the greatest shows on earth.

Springsteen in Toronto


My interview was slated for only 10 minutes after the show in the bowels of the famous hockey arena. I was led into a room where Bruce was drying off. My first words with a smile were: “You got that right, Bruce, we’re willing prisoners for life and beyond. Thank you for coming back with some great new music.” He cracked a huge grin, invited me to have a “soda” and we got into our chat. I had been taking notes and intently listening to his back catalog for a couple of days, and asked about his New Jersey roots and how that informed his music. We were having a ball and were 20 minutes into it. Until there were loud sounds of people outside in the hall — record company people, guests, official hobnobbers, etc — and all waiting to get a piece of Bruce.

Perhaps savouring the peace of just one on one, Bruce excused himself, opened the closed door and politely asked if they could be a little patient as he was “in with a friend.”

Talk about getting “respect” back! After about 30 minutes, the noise had risen again, and I suggested to Bruce that I understood he had other commitments, and we should wrap up. He gave me a warm handshake and invited me to a private party afterwards. At the party, he kept looking over to me with a nod to make sure I was good. Then a couple of days later, he had his management company in New York call me and give me personal thanks from Bruce for meeting with me and he looked forward to the published story. I found out later I’d been the only Canadian-based journalist who’d been granted an interview. RESPECT!

Hopkins Westworld


One quick story about Sir Anthony Hopkins, who I interviewed with a group of wonderful journalists around a small roundtable about his role in HBO’s Westworld. When he was asked about his approach to creating a character, he glanced at my printed notes in front of me and picked them up, saying, “Our job is to just learn it. I eat the text, I consume it, digest it. (Reading my notes) Did I say this about God?” Yes, Sir Anthony, who has South Wales roots like me, read my notes which were about the concept of God.

Michelangelo


He went on, “This young man has done his research. For my role as A.I. creator Ford, I had done research on Julian Jaynes’ book about the Bicameral Mind, which explains the nature of the divine in the human being. (pausing) There’s a wonderful analysis of the painting...” He pointed up to the ceiling and I glommed onto his train of thought, suggesting, “Michelangelo's Creation of Adam in the Sistine Chapel?” He beamed, “You are paying attention. Anyway, in the painting, God’s hand is reaching out but not touching Adam. But in the cloak of God, or perhaps it’s a cloud, there’s a depiction of the human brain. Now, as an anatomist, Michelangelo would dissect human brains and bodies. If you look closely, you see the cerebellum, the spinal cord, hidden in the folds of the cloak.”

Sure enough, I Googled it and showed it around, and it does look like God is physically placed within a subtle depiction of the human cerebellum! Who knew? Anyway, after the interview, he walked out of the room with me, talking about my hometown of Newport where his parents had lived.

The Golden Rule is defined as treating others as you would like to be treated, and, most of our belief systems/religions have some take on this life philosophy. Paying more attention to this rule and to a core value like "respect" could serve us all well in how we interact with each other in today’s increasingly divided world.

Say it out loud like Aretha did — R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

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  • Jack Mitchell

    If you take the time to demonstrate respect for people including celebrities, they will show the respect that you deserve.

  • Thanks, Jack, that is the truth. It is the golden rule and for the most part, it works. And we should try to apply it to all facets of our life, no?

  • Jack Mitchell

    In reply to: Ashley Collie

    Of course. You are absolutely right.

  • ashley collie

    In reply to: Jack Mitchell

    Cheers, Jack! Read my story about males self-harming...an eye-opener!

  • Christopher Jones

    When I think of honest and reliable journalists, I think of persons who do their work with excellence and are consistent in their story telling.

  • Chris, also, true. And to be honest, I don't personally know or associate with any "fake news" journalists. Or fake celebrities or politicians, for that matter. Honest story telling will hopefully always win out!

  • Todd Verma

    Inspiring read !!! Thanks for sharing your experience.

  • Cheers, Todd, very kind of you.

  • Kevin Ells

    I would love to meet these stars. You are so LUCKY !!!!!!

  • Kevin, they're a lot like us, except with bigger wallets — actors are always wondering where their next job is coming from, that's what they say. They have the same fears about mortality and death about themselves and loved ones, and concerns about health. As the Beatles sang, Money can't buy me love...or immortality, for now! Thanks for commenting!

  • Martin Oliver

    You have shown a genuine interest in others that's why you have earned their respect

  • Much appreciate your read and observations, Martin!

  • Scott Bryson

    The more you focus on adding value for others, the more respect you will get.

  • Thanks for your comment, Scott. The love you take is equal to the love you make, as someone once sang!

  • Edwin Miller

    The biggest Hollywood stars respect those who take chances, take risks, and seek challenges.

  • Thanks for your comment, Edwin. Have you lived in Hollywood?

  • Edwin Miller

    In reply to: Ashley Jude Collie

    No but I have been there several times as a tourist.

  • Danny Markham

    Amazing !! You are committed to making changes in your area. Great insights.

  • Thanks, Danny. Just take a pebble and cast it to the sea...

  • Scott Amy

    Great wisdom written in wonderful prose, proving being prepared and showing respect wins out in the end.

  • Thanks much, Scott, for your own insights and response. That's all we have in the end, our integrity and who we really are, eh?

  • Scott Army

    In reply to: Ashley Jude Collie

    Yes ! I am just stating the truth !

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Ashley Jude Collie

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Ashley is an award-winning journalist/author/blogger who has written for Playboy, Toronto Star, Movie Entertainment, Sports Illustrated, Maclean's and others. He's interviewed various "leaders" in their fields, including: Oscar winners (Matthew McConaughey, Jennifer Lawrence, Alicia Vikander, Jane Fonda, Mira Sorvino, Geena Davis, Anthony Hopkins); Grammy winners (Bruce Springsteen, Paul McCartney, Ice Cube, Pete Townshend); MVPs in sports (Peyton Manning, Tom Brady, Wayne Gretzky, Kobe Bryant); and, business leaders (Amazon's Jeff Bezos). He has an upcoming novel, REJEX, coming out on Pulp Hero Press. And he has written several episodic TV shows, appeared on CNN, and blogged for Mademan, Medium, GritDaily and HuffPost.

   

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