55% of the marriages that occur in the world today are arranged marriages. The global divorce rate has increased up to 251.8% since 1960. 1 out of 3 marriages fail in the first five years.
The most common reasons for unhappy marriages and fragile relationships are; Incompatibility, infidelity, drug / alcohol addiction, and physical/mental abuse. Relationships have been reduced to ones with benefits questioning the basic fundamentals of love causing unrest in society.
May, recognized as the Mental Health Awareness month encourages us to reach out and ask for help. I had the opportunity of interviewing Shradha WTB founder and creator of The F.A.I.T.H System where she shares The Secrets of Togetherness with couples.
What is The F.A.I.T.H System?
A System is a way, a method of doing things. The F.A.I.T.H System has the acronym (F- Focus, A- Accountability, I- Invest, T-Thoughts, H- Hunger). FOCUS, When you know why you want, what you want, you keep advancing towards your goal, eliminating all distractions. Focus on Friendship in the relationship/marriage. ACCOUNTABILITY, A conscious decision once made, entitles you to take full responsibility to see it through. Hold yourself Accountable to be Affectionate. INVEST, Time is all one has, invest it wisely. Invest in Intimacy. THOUGHTS, We have no control over the thoughts that enter us but we can choose the ones to dwell on. Thoughts of Tease & Playfulness nurture love. HUNGER, Those who are ambitious and have fire in their bellies are the ones who go after their dreams like a roaring lion. Hunger to remain Honest to your Core.
Why did you come up with this concept?
Faith can move mountains. We all have heard this saying at some point in our lives but when a little girl at six falls off the balancing beam to fracture her shoulder away at boarding school in the Himalayas, when the life-threatening birth of her premature baby boy in her early twenties becomes her only reason to live against all odds, when a ‘Fit For Nothing’ housewife turns around her husband’s factory that was in debt for seven years in only three months and generates surplus profit, when she turns rags to riches in the apparels industry pulling a coup of all sorts doing sales of half a million US dollars in no time, I took a pause to observe, reflect and develop The F.A.I.T.H System to share it with the world. ’Shradha’ means faith and Shradha kept me going.
How will people benefit from this system?
When you know why you are in the relationship, The F.A.I.T.H System will help you stay together forever. With proper coaching and mentoring, couples are empowered to successfully unite leveraging the power of love to have a strong bond and connection when you bring children into the world and add longevity as the years' pass. People also learn how to build a financial future and bring wealth and success into your home so you live a de-stressed life of design and not by default.
What advice do you have for couples when they start seeing each other?
Couples are in a haste to tie the knot especially when it’s an arranged marriage. Even through commitment phobia, Pre Wedding blues, financials not sorted, some haven’t even gotten over their ex yet they dive right in, most of the times under family pressure and repent later putting everyone in jeopardy. 7 out of 10 couples on their way back from their honeymoon land up taking different flights. It’s imperative to spend ample time in knowing one another before saying ‘Yes’.
How is this system different from marriage counseling?
Couples resort to marriage counseling when there are conflicts and try to resolve them through therapy. Some wait till it deteriorates to a point of no return and even divorce lawyers’ recommendations go in vain. The F.A.I.T.H System is for couples who are progressive in their thinking and want to make things work emotionally, sexually, mentally, spiritually and financially right from the inception or when love still holds the two of you together. In today’s stressful, uncertain and fear-driven environment that’s increasing drug abuse, alcoholism and suicides around the world why wait for things to go that bad? Why not just be a bit mindful to put in the efforts so you can take your lives to the next level not only personally but professionally too.
Your #1 advice for people who want a happy life/relationship?
Strengthen your resolve to love them more,
Do not refrain from asking for help,
Reach out, from your core,
You’ll be grateful, you didn’t forever, yelp!
If you are in a relationship, want to kindle your love and have a forever lasting bond then the F.A.I.T.H system is for you. Learn more about it here.
Parul Agrawal is an International Bestselling Author, Speaker, Forbes Coaches Council Member and Podcast Host. She holds a double Master’s in Engineering from Arizona State University (ASU); worked as a Research Scientist at ASU and Engineer for Intel Corporation. In an effort to help others address major medical issues and live more healthily, she pursued holistic studies and acquired her certification as a wellness expert. After launching a successful Wellness Coaching business, Parul delivered the message of health through public speaking in various community centers and corporations. Parul’s life and business changed dramatically after she wrote a book on the benefits of juicing that became an International Bestseller in multiple categories. The book’s phenomenal success resulted in her being featured in major publications like the Huffington Post, Thrive Global, Forbes and as a guest on ABC Arizona. Parul has not only continued her success as an author and businesswoman, but she has paid-it-forward, by helping over 100 writers become bestselling authors, too! She is the founder of an International Publishing Platform where she helps thought leaders in the areas of health, wellness and consciousness write their books, achieve bestseller authority status, and land in mainstream media - just like she did! Parul is currently experiencing the honor of being listed as one of the 30 change-makers in India for the year 2018.