That title should make quite a few of you perk up. What do you do when it stops being fun? When it feels like every ounce of passion has drained from your body and it all just feels like work.
Admittedly, I struggle with boredom. I've had an insanely full 48 years of life. I've lived in 5 countries and performed in double that. I've been on tv, in magazines, newspapers. I've won awards (no Grammy yet, dammit!). Like most people in life, I made a list of lofty goals I wanted to accomplish before my days ended. I accomplished them all by age 27, and immediately plunged into the darkest depression of my life.
Given I've seen and experienced so much, different cultures, worked for amazing execs, successfully ran lucrative side hustles my entire life, the pace I know as normal is somewhere between maniacal and completely insane. I love being challenged. I love being overwhelmed. I love not knowing the answer to something, because you can bet your sweet bippee I'm already Googling it, researching every variation and counterpoint, and will circle back with the answer and a complete understanding of the topic.
Lately, I'm running into a bit of the blahs regarding this whole Executive Assistant advocacy thing. I jumped in with both feet exactly a year ago because I saw a need and I wanted to fulfill it in my own, unique way. I saw that no one already on the scene was telling the real truth about what it takes to succeed as a top Executive Assistant in today's highly competitive market. I threw up classes on LinkedIn and a couple of them sold out immediately. What I didn't anticipate is that I'd end up spending hours upon hours doing my own graphic design work creating ads...unpaid. I would have to be clever and compelling in print, every day, to sell seats when sometimes I just feel fat, uninteresting and uninterested. I would have to answer dumb questions from people who should know better and choose to take the easy route instead of doing just a bit of research before asking the question. (I immediately disqualify those people from taking my class. #aintnobodygotimefuhdat) I was hoping to team up with some of the legends on the scene and really dig into how to make some massive progress on behalf of this community. Nope. I got High School "cool table" instead. And the "you can't sit with us" stare anytime I approached. Nice.
At one point all of this was fun. And to be honest, once I'm at the table and among my tribe I have an absolute blast! But the journey there, to each individual city, kinda sucks these days. That's real talk.
So, Phoenix, what do you do when it stops being fun?
Things lose their lustre. It's a fact of life. Just make sure that you are not the reason why. Audit your intentions, eliminate the noise, be authentic and get back to basics. If after you've done this you still haven't rediscovered the passion and the joy, it may be time to cut and run. However, I think what you'll find is that it's simply a case of the blahs easily remedied by remembering your "why". And pressing reset with that as your North Star once again.
Phoenix is coaching and supporting American billionaires, CEOs and executive teams in tech, retail and banking for over 25 years. He also founded and created MEGA Assistant University, a revolutionary skills and mindset “boot camp” for top Executive and Personal Assistants who want to level up quickly and begin forging a mutually successful business partnership with their executives and teams. Phoenix holds a Bachelors of Arts in European Studies/Civilisation from Trinity College Dublin.