5 Harsh Truths Every Leader Needs to Know

5 Harsh Truths Every Leader Needs to Know

John Eades 14/08/2020 7
5 Harsh Truths Every Leader Needs to Know

"Expectations are the seeds of resentment," a wise mentor once told me. 

It's a lesson that's easy in concept but not in execution. An expectation is simply a belief that is future-focused that may or may not be realistic. Often we create unrealistic expectations about how something is going to play out, and when it doesn't happen exactly that way, our world feels like it is crashing down.  

This is especially true about our leadership journey. While it's great to set our sights high, we have to be ready for the reality of leading in a world that's always changing. It's a delicate balance of being optimistic, realistic, and resilient. 

Instead of setting a low bar about the future, the best leaders remain hopeful, at the same time, know the path to a brighter future is littered with challenges and struggles. 

Leadership is a Journey and not a Destination

I start every virtual leadership workshop off by sharing with participants that "leadership is a journey and not a destination." The reason is simple; leadership is a series of skills that you can always get better or, unfortunately, get worse.  

To help you get better on your leadership journey, it's essential to level set on a few key leadership truths to help you avoid sprouting those seeds of resentment.  

When Things Go Wrong, It's Your Fault

The late great Kobe Bryant said, "Leadership is responsibility." Bryant was right, but that doesn't mean it's easy. Just think of all the CEO's who have been fired because of mistakes made by team members.

Since one of the essential elements of leadership is empowerment, by its very nature, other people will be making decisions where the information is (as they should).  

As a result, mistakes will be made without your direct input or influence. Those mistakes ultimately fall on your shoulders because you are responsible for your people and the outcomes.  

If you're in a leadership position, taking responsibility when things go wrong is required.  

With the responsibility also comes a deep sense of loyalty to a leader because people know their leader has their back.   

When Things Go Right, It's Because of Your Team

It's tempting and easy to take credit for a team's success when you are at the top of the organization chart. But just because it's tempting and easy doesn't mean it's right. Dave Cancel, the founder of Drift, said, "My best advice for leaders: when things go wrong, take all the blame. When things go right, give away all the credit."

Following up and following through on this leadership truth is hard and takes practice. We are taught from the time we are in school to raise the trophy high above our heads, not above others.

Coach Nick Nurse of the Toronto Raptors gave us all a masterclass in how to properly give credit to their team right after winning NBA Championship last year. Your job is to mimic Coach Nurse the next time something significant happens to your team. 

You Can't Help Everyone

One of the hardest leadership lessons I learned is that you can't help everyone. Each person is responsible for their actions and choices. As much as you want to choose for someone else, you can't.  

As I wrote in Building the Best, "A leader's job is to set high standards and help your people meet and exceed them."  

Because people have free will to choose, it means some people simply won't be on board and make the necessary decisions to be a part of your team, and that's okay. Treat each person the same, and do your very best to help them succeed and then remove yourself from the outcome. 

Your Biggest Hurdle is Muting Distraction

In a business environment that changes by the hour, not the year, distractions are inevitable. It's hard not to have your head on a swivel looking for new and better opportunities personally or the team. However, one of the things that makes a leader great is their ability to mute distractions.

One of the things that makes a leader great is their ability to mute distractions.

Distraction is anything that takes our focus away from where it needs to be at any given moment. Since eliminating distractions all together isn't possible, I coach leaders to mute distractions by asking three simple questions:

  • "Do you have defined priorities for your team?"
  • "Is this distraction critical to our success right now?"
  • "Can I (or we) do something about this distraction?"

The Doubt Doesn't Go Away, Keep Leading Anyways

Each promotion or day is going to bring about unique challenges that will test your confidence, and doubt will ultimately follow. But doubt can be overcome by action.  

The action required is choosing leadership. Everyone starts as a beginner. At some point, everyone experiences their "firsts" -- first time leading a meeting, first time leading a project, first time leading a team, etc. That means you are built to learn and adapt as you go. Keep leading your best day in and day out regardless of the doubt you feel.   


I am sure you have heard the saying, "The truth hurts." It's only correct when you don't know the truth. It's my hope, now that you either know or were reminded of these leadership truths, it will help you moving forward.

About the Author: John Eades is the CEO of LearnLoft, a leadership development company helping improve the performance of struggling managers. He was named one of LinkedIn's Top Voices in Management & Workplace. John is also the author of  Building the Best: 8 Proven Leadership Principles to Elevate Others to Success. You can follow him on Instagram @johngeades.

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  • Marie Flanagan

    Leaders are the ones willing to take care of the people around them.

  • Ryan Lloyd

    Thank you for doing what you do John !

  • Jamie Clarkson

    It's not easy to have empathy for bosses who have a big ego and feel threatened by others who have better leadership skills.

  • Antony Donaldson

    Great article

  • Steve Gonzaga

    This is exactly the message I needed to read today.

  • Philip Langdon

    Bad leaders will never change !

  • Eric Doyle

    Thank you John for this important reminder.

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John Eades

Leadership Expert

John is the CEO of LearnLoft, author of, F.M.L. Standing Out & Being a Leader and host of the 'Follow My Lead' Podcast. He writes or has been featured on Inc.com, LinkedIn Pulse, TrainingIndustry.com, eLearningIndustry.com, CNBC Money, and more. John completed his education at the University of Maryland College. 

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