In the last post about exercise and depression, I discussed the benefits of exercise on depression and why it is worth it to push yourself even when you have no energy. Exercise helps with overcoming depression but are you wondering how to get motivated when you are depressed?
Depression can make it hard to get out of bed, brush your teeth and get dressed. Daily functioning can feel like a chore and even routine activities can feel completely overwhelming. Getting to work each day can feel monumental. And now you want me to exercise to help conquer depression?!!
Yes, I do! I want you to feel better!
The more general or vague goals are, the less likely they will be achieved. It is much more effective to say “I’m going to go walking with my friend during our lunch break 3 times per week” than set a general goal like “I am going to get in shape”.
Don’t decide your goal is to both start to run and complete a marathon all in the same year. Even if you start to run (success!) you may feel discouraged if you don’t progress to marathon distance and give up running completely. This negative cycle gets internalized: “I hate running”, “Running is too hard and I’ll never be good at it”, “I’m not strong enough to run a marathon”.
Sometimes it can be as simple as shifting your mindset to relieve this burden of negativity. For example, if you make a daily to-do list (I recommend this!) celebrate what you get done instead of putting yourself down for not completing every item. Use mantras to help set yourself up for a more positive mindset. See this post to get started: 30 Healing Mantras for Depression.
The Mindful MD Mom wrote a great post about prioritizing goals, living intentionally, being present, and stepping out of your comfort zone: 4 Steps to Live Your Best Life. She writes:
“Each day is a new opportunity to live and not just exist. Each day is a new canvas to paint the story of your life according to you. Living intentionally means making the most of your life, especially the small moments that make up each day because the choices you make today will affect your tomorrow.”
I love these daily planners and to-do lists (this link will bring you to my actual blog and there you will be able to see the planners I recommend). They include important reminders that can be helpful when you are depressed. The daily must-do list includes places to write in meals, water, gratitude, and exercise. The weekly planner has inspirational quotes to motivate and encourage.
Importantly, make sure your daily to-do lists are actually appropriate. If they are too long, too general, and include grandiose projects that would take days to complete they will not make it easy for you to get started.
Break down huge projects into smaller steps. Don’t write “Clean out the closet”. Instead, try to list to-do items separately: “Hang up shirts”, “Get rid of 5 shirts I don’t wear”, “Pick up shoes and put them on the shelf”. Increase your chance to get things done by making a list that isn’t overwhelming.
Sit down and write out your achievable plan. What steps will you take this week? How many times will you exercise? What can you commit to do despite not feeling like doing anything? List everything and be as specific as possible.
After you have written out your plans it is important to get started right away. I notice people often set a goal and then pick a future date to start. Why start next week? What will be different at that time? Why not today? If you have set your goals appropriately and reasonably there is no reason to wait to get started.
The next post in this series has suggestions on how to maintain motivation while you are recovering from depression. It is important to get started but also important to keep going. I will give you 3 ways to help you maintain forward momentum.
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Dr. Melissa Welby is a psychiatrist that participates in people’s process of discovery, empowerment, and search for satisfaction and happiness. She treats a variety of illnesses including depression, anxiety & panic attacks, adult ADHD (Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorders), bipolar disorder, OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) and borderline personality disorder. She is also the current president of the Connecticut Psychiatric Association.She completed her Internship & Residency at Cambridge Hospital, affiliate of Harvard Medical School, 2000 to 2004. Dr. Melissa Welby is Board Certified in General Psychiatry by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, 2005 to present.